With all the self-proclaimed “gurus” out there, life can quickly become a muddled and chaotic mess of advice, tips, tactics, and strategies.
But you can cut through all of that sloppy, sticky syrup by just focusing on a few key things.
And since this article is on simplicity, I’m going to keep this article clean, lean, mean, and direct.
Key Thing #1 – Ignore stuff
That’s right. Stop thinking that you have to take all these pieces of advice from people. It doesn’t matter if it’s coming from a $10 billion dollar CEO…what he’s telling you is what worked for him. Period.
There’s no need to feel guilty if you’re not interested in doing the stuff that everyone else says you need to do.
If your heart doesn’t call you to it, then just set it aside. It will be there later if you need it.
The best part about the Universe is that it knows what you need. You just have to have the guts to:
1) Let go of the stuff you don’t want, and
2) Go after the stuff you do want.
It’s that simple.
If you miss your stop when it comes to letting something go, then just wait for the next stop.
And if, for some reason, you miss an opportunity in life, then just wait for the next bus to show up.
You really can’t lose.
“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not.” -Bruce Lee
This is your life. You are the main character in your video game. So play the game by your own rules.
Remember what I said in the previous article:
“Don’t listen to the person who tells you what they think you should do…
…listen to the person who encourages you to do what you already know is in your heart.” -D/C Russ
Trust me, as soon as you have a dream, other people are gonna try to steal it from you. And the only way they can do this is if you let them…
…so don’t let them.
Instead, learn to master this next simple thing:
Key Thing #2 – Say “No”
This one word is one of the most powerful words on the entire planet. It is one of the few words that is spoken by every single culture that has ever existed. And yet so many people refuse to unleash its hidden power.
In this world, you are going to be bombarded with two types of energies: 1) ones you want and 2) ones you don’t want. And if you answer “yes” to the latter, then that’s inexorably what you’ll get more of.
When someone makes a request for you that is not going to serve your best interests, there is but one word you need to employ:
That word is “No”.
The same thing also applies to situations in life that you don’t want more of. And just like people, situations will also not respect you if you’re saying “Yes” all the time.
“Yes” is a giving energy. “No” is a receiving energy.
Lots of people like to pretend that it’s good to give to others before giving to yourself. But if you do this too much, you will be left drained and unable to give at all.
You must first provide for yourself, and then give from the excess.
It’s evident from a mile away: people who say “No” have more respect for themselves. And because they have self-respect, others will likewise respect them as well.
But this advice goes way beyond people. It also applies to circumstances (and even thoughts!) that you don’t want.
So if you want to start making your life way more simplified, focus on saying “No” to the things you don’t want. You’ll be amazed at how these things magically begin to vanish from your experience.
Key Thing #3 – Stop “Gaming” Stuff
People love to play games with life, trying desperately to control every last detail so that they can meet their goals.
Every one is so focused on tips and tactics:
- What color button will boost my conversion rates?
- What’s the best traffic source?
- What’s the most powerful mantra for Law of Attraction?
- What’s the best pick-up line for meeting women?
- What’s the most effective ‘skinny pill’ for instant results?
Generally when you want something in life, stay away from asking “what” questions. Instead, ask “how”.
“How” gets you to focus on long-term plans and strategy.
“How” shows that you’re taking personal responsibility. “What” means you’re relying on someone or something else to do it for you.
If you really want to simplify life, get rid of all the excessive details that weigh you down. Instead, focus on growing and learning. You can get everything you want in life if you just take your time and do it right.
There are no shortcuts. Shortcuts never worked and never will work.
Nevertheless, the “shortcut industry” continues to sell people quick-fix after quick-fix, leaving them grabbing for the next pile of sand that slips right through their fingers.
There is one very successful blogger whose words encompass this truth rather well. Read what he has to say about “gaming” stuff here.
As you can see, playing games with life will never get you anywhere…
But even worse than trying to “game” the details of life is trying to game other people. It’s a sick obsession that always leads you in a big circle.
We humans love to complicate life by trying to control everyone else but ourselves. If you really pay attention to your behavior, you’ll notice you do this constantly on a daily basis — in the workplace and at home.
And when your efforts to make someone think/feel a certain way fail, then you take their reaction personally.
Simplify life by focusing on YOU.
Be real, and…
Key Thing #4 – Be Honest
Every scientist knows that when you’re doing an experiment, the best results come from isolating one variable at a time. The best way to acquire knowledge from science is to ‘control’ for as many elements as you can.
But if you’re a person trying to gain knowledge from life, you already know how hard it is to control all the unknowns…in fact, it’s utterly impossible.
So, why would you further muddle the experiment by varying your own integrity?
Honesty just makes logical sense. It is the fastest way to get from Point A to Point B.
What would happen if you got in the car and your GPS lied to you? You probably already know.
The reason why people lie is because they’re afraid. They don’t want to admit their mistakes or shortcomings.
But this is the cowardly way out. If you want to champion this world and have an amazing life, do not be afraid of the truth. The truth will never hurt you. That’s what it means to have faith.
Feeling the need to lie is a sign that you’ve lost faith. When you lie you’re denying the infinite power of the Universe and, instead, deciding to take matters into your own hands.
Not only that, but having to keep track of your lies ends up being way more complicated than simply committing to truth.
Why not just keep it pure and keep it simple by telling the truth no matter what you think is going to happen?
Sure, lying might help you keep your job. It might help you stay in a relationship. Or it might save you a couple extra bucks on your taxes.
But what if God had a better job for you and you missed it? What if there was an even more amazing relationship right around the corner? Or what if the IRS comes knocking on your door one day?
Living a pure, honest life removes all of the guesswork and instead puts your faith into something Greater than yourself. It shows that you’re not afraid to have undesirable experiences in life, because you know that everything is designed for your ultimate benefit.
Key Thing #5 – Eliminate Fear
Everything in this article boils down to #5 because when you’re not following the above four rules, it means you’re afraid of something.
If you really think about it, when you aren’t following these rules it means you’re living in fear:
- Listening to everything outside of you means you are afraid that your internal answers aren’t true.
- Saying “Yes” to everything means you’re afraid to assert what you want, regardless of how others might feel about it.
- When you’re constantly gaming things, you’re afraid that the Universe won’t help you to meet your desires.
- And by lying all of the time, you’re declaring that you’re afraid of the truth.
When you hang on to fear, it means you don’t have faith in yourself and something greater.
Fear is that little voice that tells you that it’s not going to be alright. Fear tells you that you can’t, won’t, aren’t, or shouldn’t.
In most cases, fear is not an enabler…it is a dis-abler.
When you’re afraid, you don’t think clearly. Fear causes you to do and say things that ultimately make your life more complicated and more difficult.
Simplicity is fearlessness.
Clutter breeds stress. Stress breeds worry. Worry breeds fear.
Uncomplicate your life and you’ll find freedom and happiness.
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