Ever notice how things just seem to magically work out for some folks?
…even when it doesn’t seem like they did anything in particular to deserve it?
Maybe you’ve experienced this for yourself. I’d venture to say that most people have not.
I dare to estimate that most people did everything they were supposed to and are now currently wondering what happened to the rewards they were promised. They followed the rules of society, expecting to be set for life…and now, years later, they’re wondering why things didn’t go quite as planned.
Well, shit, call me crazy…
…but I know why.
I know because I’ve experienced both realities.
I have experienced “following the rules” and came up empty handed. I know what it’s like to try, try, try and push, push, push only to stay in the same old rut.
I also know what it’s like to have things magically work out…with no explanation whatsoever.
Sometimes I think I should have been dead. If I follow the logic of some of the crazy and stupid things I’ve done…I should be dead. Or at least down and out.
And I know many people with at least the same level of privilege who didn’t get so lucky…who are now looking at their lives and scratching their heads wondering how things ended up the way they did.
And I know why.
I know because I have one secret weapon.
But I prefer to think of it as a super power that anyone can train and learn to cultivate.
It’s the reason why some people seem to slip right through the cracks into amazing opportunities while others spend their entire lives dotting their “I’s” and crossing their “T’s” with nothing to show for it.
How should I say this…
There are many ways it can be said.
Look, I’ll let you call it what you want.
But it’s the energy that everything will work out because nothing is really that important.
It’s the attachment that kills people, figuratively and literally.
People become so attached…so desperate…that it ruins them. It destroys their whole lives…sometimes quickly…sometimes so gradually that they barely even notice.
Alright, let me give you a great example of what I’m talking about. If you’ve ever seen the movie “Office Space” (you should – it’s a classic), you’ll notice how the main character Peter has a sudden transformation resulting from a hypnosis session.
From one moment to the next, Peter goes from a rule-following “yes man” to a calm, cool, and casual dude. Inexplicably, things in his life start magically transforming.
From Google – “Corporate drone Peter Gibbons hates his soul-killing job at software company Initech. While undergoing hypnotherapy, Peter is left in a blissful state when his therapist dies in the middle of their session. He refuses to work overtime, plays games at his desk and unintentionally charms two consultants into putting him on the management fast-track.”
All of a sudden it seems like the less Peter cares, the more things just start to “work out.”
I know, I know…”it’s just a movie,” right?
I mean yes…it is just a movie.
But film is among the best ways to convey truths of life that we can’t easily explain. But here I am anyway, trying to explain this concept in an article.
And I absolutely know this energy works. I’ve experienced it more times than I can count. So let me give you an example from my personal life. I posted this on Facebook recently:
Proof that the “Office Space” strategy really works…
Hi, Dustin. One of my employees said some good things about you and we’re considering adding another contractor to our team. It would be good if you sent over your resume and we’ll take things from there.
Sounds interesting. I’ve been self-employed for about two years now and I don’t really do the whole resume thing anymore. Do you have some time next week for a call?
Sure! I look forward to meeting you. Sounds like you have a really cool background. How does Monday work for you?
This is not the only time this has happened. I’ve scored big business deals with people I didn’t even know. I’ve gotten jobs that I should not have gotten: “I don’t know what it is, I just like you more than the other candidates.”
I landed a high-paying job in finance right out of college, with zero experience. I didn’t even have a finance degree. I had a 2.8 anthropology degree. And being from Missouri, I could’ve struggled to tell you the difference between stock and livestock.
Ok, the stock part was a joke. But the message is clear…
The more you “care” and grip onto the outcome you want, the faster and easier it will slip through your fingers.
On the other hand, the more you just sit back and relax, the more you’ll find that things just seem to magically work out for you.
It can be a tough energy to master. It’s not exactly being “careless” or “laid-back.” The closest term I can think of to describe it would be “worry-free,” but even that doesn’t do it justice.
It’s all about the recognition that nothing really matters in this world. That no matter what happens, soon you and everyone you’ve ever known will be dead and forgotten about.
Sure it sounds grim at first.
But it’s actually an incredibly freeing energy that has magical and magnificent results in every aspect of your experience here.
It’s the most freeing thing in the world once you realize that your experience is just that…an experience.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Nothing good, nothing bad.
In fact, some of the most “bad” things that have happened to people somehow ended up being the best thing that’s ever happened to them. I’m sure you know someone, maybe yourself, who has a story like this.
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” -Shakespeare
I could drone on and on about this. I have dozens and dozens of examples of instances where I just shrugged off – or even laughed at – “unfortunate” circumstances, only for them to seemingly dissipate in front of my very eyes.
So many times I should have worried, I just chose not to. And the problem just sort of went away on its own.
Other times, however, I allowed myself to get worked up and it seemed like no matter how hard I prepared or trained, there was simply nothing I could do to get the results I want.
So let me just wrap up here by sharing with you a quick parable known as The Chinese Farmer.
Once there was a Chinese farmer who worked his poor farm together with his son and their horse. When the horse ran off one day, neighbors came to say, “How unfortunate for you!” The farmer replied, “Good or bad…I don’t know.”
When the horse returned, followed by a herd of wild horses, the neighbors gathered around and exclaimed, “What good luck for you!” The farmer stayed calm and replied, “Good or bad…I don’t know.”
While trying to tame one of wild horses, the farmer’s son fell, and broke his leg. He had to rest up and couldn’t help with the farm chores. “How sad for you,” the neighbors cried. “Good or bad…I don’t know,” said the farmer.
Shortly thereafter, a neighboring army threatened the farmer’s village. All the young men in the village were drafted to fight the invaders. Many died. But the farmer’s son had been left out of the fighting because of his broken leg. People said to the farmer, “What a good thing your son couldn’t fight!”
“Good or bad…I don’t know,” was all the farmer said.
Look you don’t have to take my word for any of this. Some people really get angry when you say stuff like this. I even had one guy leave a comment on my blog saying he wanted to kick me in the nuts. Seriously.
And I thought that was pretty funny.
I even had one woman insist that in order to grow my blog I had to do certain things like comb my hair or not shoot videos in my bath robe. I actually fell for that advice for a while. She said my spirit guides were telling me that…and she was very convincing about it.
To this day, I believe that maybe – just maybe – this woman actually was communicating with my spirit guides…but that my spirit guides were telling me this simply because it’s what I needed to hear…in the same way the Oracle told Neo that he wasn’t ‘the One.’
Since then I’ve nearly tripled the growth on my blog. And my hair still ain’t combed.
Not because I don’t care. I do care. I love all of you people who have been reading and watching my stuff. You’re all so awesome and that’s why I continue to blog after five years without making money.
That’s why it’s key to remember that if you want things to magically “just work out” for you, it’s not about carelessness…
…it’s about going with the flow.
It’s about learning to not take life so seriously. Set your compass to your desired destination and then just set out on the journey.
“Do or do not…there is no try.” -Yoda
Just remember that there’s nothing worth freaking out about. Nothing.
Make up your mind on how YOU want your life to look. Not how someone else told you it should.
Be brave and live a life worth living. No time to worry and stress about controlling outcomes you can’t control. Just go on the journey and accept the fact that you’re going to get pricked by thorns, bitten by snakes, and cursed with poison ivy.
It’s all part of the fun…
…yes, even when it’s not “fun.”
“All great journeys have a secret destination of which the traveler is unaware.”
I’ll see you around, comrade. Sign up to align-mentality and our paths shall cross once more.