If someone were to ask me what my greatest strength is, it would probably be my ability to make rapid life changes. Once I identify an aspect of myself that I want to improve – and I see a reasonable means to make it happen – the actual change itself happens rather quickly.
My key to doing this is to be extremely deliberate.
Of course, just like with anything, getting there does take some time. But once you’ve mastered the art of being extremely deliberate, you now have the means to make massive changes in a very short amount of time.
If you think about it, almost every change you want to make has to do with one of two things:
- A habit or pattern you’d like to stop.
- A habit or pattern you’d like to adopt.
Everything else is just a matter of practice and improvement.
The difficulty in making rapid life changes is doing it in a way that’s sustainable.
It’s easy to say, “On New Year’s Day, I will start going to the gym three days a week.”
After about a month – two if you’re lucky – all of a sudden you realize it’s been almost a week since you’ve been to the gym.
At first, it looked like you made a rapid change. But if you revert back, then effectively the change was never made…it was all just an illusion…a story you told yourself.
Why is this?
What force inside of us allows this to happen?
Well, not knowing what else to call it, I blame the force of auto-pilot.
Auto-pilot occurs once you’ve done something a certain way for long enough that your brain and body begin to make decisions for you.
The only way to escape this tendency is to become extremely deliberate in everything you do. And I’m going to teach you a quick and effective hack to make this happen for yourself.
But first, let me explain why extreme deliberateness is the key to making rapid, lasting life changes.
In a nutshell, it all comes down to consciousness.
You’ve probably heard the term ‘conscious evolution’ at least once. The idea is that you become so conscious and so present of yourself that you become acutely aware of everything you’re doing (or not doing).
Becoming conscious of yourself, your actions, your thoughts, and your emotions will be a skill that serves you in every aspect of life. By being conscious, you not only have a heightened sense of awareness but you also learn to identify when you’re bullshitting yourself.
It almost seems like learning to tell when you’re bullshitting yourself is a superpower in today’s world. Everywhere you look, there’s another person bullshitting themselves and they don’t even know it:
- “Yeah I’m gonna start working out.”
- “I’ll call you back tomorrow.”
- “I’m going to knock that out today.”
- “I’m going to be rich.”
- “I’m really going to quit this time.”
You don’t have to stop bullshitting yourself in order to be a superhero. All you have to do is be aware that you’re doing it.
And there’s a really cool hack that can train you to be extremely deliberate simply by being honest with yourself.
The reason why extreme deliberateness works is because it combats the auto-pilot demon. It puts your free will in control, rather than your demon’s.
The beautiful thing about this hack is that you don’t actually have to change anything in order for it to work. All you have to do is make a firm, mature, and solid decision about what you want to do.
For example, instead of reaching for that cigarette or piece of junk food, just take one moment to decide what you’re going to do before you do it…even if your decision ends up being the same one you would have made on auto-pilot.
“I’m going to smoke this cigarette…because I want to smoke this cigarette. So that’s what I’m going to do.”
When you cultivate this mentality, you put yourself in control. And when you feel like you’re in control, you don’t have to deal with all of the unnecessary emotions like shame, guilt, and hopelessness.
You see, making rapid life changes is not actually about the change at all. If it were, then relapse would not be a thing.
The reason people are unable to make the changes they want is because they have not mastered the skill of extreme deliberateness.
Once you learn to be deliberate in everything you do, then all of a sudden you regain control of the wheel. No more drifting around in auto pilot.
The moment when you master the art of conscious deliberateness, making life changes is as easy as flipping a switch.
And when you’re finally ready to flip that switch, I just have one last piece of advice for you.
You must fully believe that the change you want to make is going to give you the results you really, truly want. You must be sure that the change you’re trying to make is going to make you feel the way you want to feel.
If you find that you cannot believe it fully, then simply treat the change as an “all-in” life experiment. Your now-heightened sense of awareness will be able to detect if the change is working.
And if for some reason the change is not producing the results you want, then simply and deliberately choose to abandon the effort and try something new.
There. That’s it. Now you’re in command.