When Life Gives You Lemons…

lemons-75035_640There are two ways that you can relate to any undesirable circumstance in your life:

1) At cause

2) At effect

When things happen to us in this universe, a lot of people default to an “at effect” mentality. They’ll say things like, “That’s just the way it is.”

But when people do this, they immediately dismiss any opportunity they might have to change the situation for their benefit.

It’s true that you can’t control everything in this world. In fact, most things you cannot.

But you will always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

It’s better to have an “at cause” mentality because there is ALWAYS something you can do to change a situation — even if it’s a simple mindset adjustment.

Usually, though, the best changes in life — the ones that really propel you forward — come from balancing a proper mindset with tangible, consistent action.

Let me give you an example.

I was talking to my friend the other day who was having a hard time at his job. He was basically stressed out because he doesn’t want to work a job for 10+ hours every single day, but he sees it as a necessary evil.

Here are his words: “It’s just a fact man. Some things you just have to accept…like the fact that there’s a ruling group of people out there who want you to be enslaved to the system by being forced to have a miserable, draining job. If I don’t work, then I don’t eat. It’s that simple.”

Does that sound to you like a person who’s reached a state of acceptance over their situation?

Haha, of course not.

This person is actively and willingly giving away his own power to choose. Not only could he develop a better long-term strategy for earning money, but he could also adjust his thinking to not feel bad about his present circumstances.

Cause-and-effect is the most basic law in the universe. When you see yourself as “at cause” over your circumstances then you can begin to change them over time.

Yes, it can take a long time. And we all fail regularly when it comes to this process.

But with consistent action coupled with humble acceptance, you can go anywhere you want to go.

Try to waste as little time as you can thinking about how bad your present circumstances are. It’s a trap! The more you fall into this trap, the more opportunities for change you will miss.

Stop spending time blaming yourself, others, or the world. Because, as always, true change never happens out there anyway…

…true change happens within.

One Comment

  1. Derek said:

    This reminds me of the one lesson that set me free more than anything – “take 100% responsibility for your life.” It doesn’t mean everything that happens to you is your fault, however you can ALWAYS control how you respond to it.

    March 11, 2015

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